My boss is married to a multi-millionaire, and before this she was engaged to a different multi-millionaire.
I just finished reading her book, titled PX Me (How I Became a Published Author, Got Micro-Famous, and Married a Millionaire) for the third time. At first I read it twice just because I enjoyed it, but this time I went back looking for something specific for PR purposes, and I ended up reading the whole thing all over again. I also read her first book twice, and since her books are diaries, I think I have a pretty good answer to this question by now.
She dumped the first millionaire after they were together about 3 or 4 years, and then she met her current husband about 6 days later. So as far as I am concerned she definitely qualifies as an expert. These are the tips that I can sum up from her experiences.
• This might seem obvious, but:
Live in a city where there are a lot of rich men. That will increase your chances of meeting one. Do you live in a rural trailer park? Move.
• Be beautiful, but more importantly, carry yourself well.
I go out with my boss a lot, and since we are in New York, there are always lots of beautiful women everywhere. One of the things that I noticed that my boss has above all the models is the way that she walks. She doesn’t seem to notice the way that so many people look at her while we are just walking down the street, men and women. It’s her walk. It’s hard to describe, but I would say that she walks like she is somebody.
• Dress well.
I go out with my boss a lot, and since we are in New York, there are always lots of beautiful women everywhere. One of the things that I noticed that my boss has above all the models is the way that she dresses. She doesn’t seem to notice the way that so many people look at her while we are just walking down the street, men and women. It’s the way that she dresses. And it’s not always expensive stuff either. Somehow she looks just as good in Adidas as she does in Givenchy. (Before I started working for her, I couldn’t even pronounce Givenchy.)
This is how she dresses:
TJ Khan’s answer to Whom would you nominate for the "Best Dressed Person Ever" Award?
• Do something bad-assed.
My boss rides a Ninja motorcycle. When I read her first book, titled PX This (Diary of the "Maitre d’ to the Stars") I almost thought she was exaggerating when she described how many rich and famous men were “sweating” her because of her motorcycle. One of the quotes in her book is, “It’s that big, strapping, powerful monster between your legs that gets them every time.” Now that I see her all the time, I know she’s not kidding.
• Be bright.
The only reason I have my job is because I offered to intern for free. There is no way I would offer to work for free for an idiot. I’ve gone out to dinner with my boss and her husband a few times now. Sometimes he mentions stuff about work, and I noticed she usually has good advice for him when it comes to his employees because she can empathize from experience. But since she’s also an entrepreneur herself, she knows what he’s going through so it’s not one-sided. Her husband also doesn’t seem to have much time to sit around and read newspapers or watch TV, so she tells him about current events or stuff in the media that he wouldn’t normally pay attention to.
There was this party that we went to once where a group of people were having a conversation that somehow segued from Mark Zuckerberg to James Bond. Afterward, the host of the party commented to me that my boss can "talk about anything!"
Granted, it’s not molecular biology, but I’m not so sure I’d want to be at any party where people discuss molecular biology. My point is you should be attractive socially and conversationally.
• Do not give a fuck.
She didn’t even want to date her old millionaire boyfriend but he eventually won her over. Then she broke up with him a bunch of times over the years. He kept begging her to come back until she finally decided it was the last straw.
When she first started dating her husband now there were a couple of times that he was being “wishy washy.” She was ready to dump him, too. But now they’re married, and I have never seen two people more in love in my whole life. They’re such a great couple, and I’m not just saying that because she could fire me at any time.
That is pretty much all I can think of, but I’m sure you would get a lot more if you read her books.
books by Abbe Diaz
Come to think if it, there’s another thing–
• Be funny.
I assume that some millionaires like to laugh just as much as the next guy. I don’t know how much this had to do with landing rich men, but my boss is friggin’ hilarious. If her books had not been funny, I wouldn’t have enjoyed them so much, and I wouldn’t even have this job right now. Unfortunately, I’m not rich, but if I were that would definitely be something that I would look for. Maybe that’s the secret sauce.
** This exposition was originally written in response to the question "What is the best way for a single woman to find a single, wealthy man that will marry her and take care of her financially (this also includes other parts of a relationship like love, trust and companionship)?" on Quora. Therefore, it specifically addresses a female inquirer, but the advice applies for everybody. **